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Conquering the Sex Addiction Monster

We are now learning that “addiction” is truly about failed bonding.  It’s a relational problem.  Those deemed “sex addicts” are people missing meaningful relationships and lack an understanding of healthy sexuality.  They are seeking outside their relationships what is missing inside of it (good sex, sexual chemistry, love, connection, bonding, stimulation).  We need to treat the real issue; relational boredom and…

Josh Duggar; Cautionary Tale of Erotophobia

Recently I’ve been drowning in articles and social media posts about the Duggars.   All the same, full of immediate reaction and anxiety, as with all things sex related. But what is lost in all these phobic narratives is the actual problem.   Sex. Trying to void out sex, bury it away in bible study, hide it under modesty dresses, and ban…

Growing Sideways Sexually and Relationally

­ -The following was written as an article for a magazine.  The topic requested was “health”, “fitness”, “sex”, and “aging” . I “queered” the themes Psychological health and fitness are inherently built into marginalized and minority communities due to their ability to ignore institutional “norms,” leading to a truly alternative lifestyle of choice.  Assimilationist mentalities (in terms of sexual-relational decision-making)…

“Unbearable Penis”: Use of the Penis and Sex Addiction as the Crystallization of a Sex Negative Culture

The psychopathologies that develop within a culture (such as sex addiction), far from being anomalies or aberrations, are characteristic expressions of that culture, as the crystallization…of much that is wrong with it (such as sex phobia). Whose penis is this?  Your partner or wife, medicine, psychology, religion, and job all claim ownership over it.  The male sex addict is a…